You're walking down the street, you see ‘that' guy. That guy who just pisses you off just be being alive … but when you think about it, you can't figure out why they piss you off! You're not alone in the world for thinking such things nor for being angry. We all deal with it. Through some introspection, lets find out why we are so angry (and how you can fix yourself).
There are many reasons for anger, but 99% of the time the reason is your own self … even if you don't even know it. It's also (almost) physically impossible for someone else to “make” you angry. Only you yourself can do that. Your thoughts, actions and reactions are (generally) under your own control thus it's you who choses to become angry.
Like The Hulk, our anger is all internal and is controllable. Let's first take a look at three very common reasons why we become angry when judging others.
- You wouldn’t tolerate the same behavior or characteristic in yourself.
- You display the same behavior and aren’t aware of it so you project your disowned behavior onto others and dislike it “out there.”
- You are envious and resent the feelings that come up so you find something wrong with those who have what you want and end up judging them.
Good news is that all of those are self inflicted anger issues, which means they can all be ‘cured'. Don't except there to be a “make me less angry” magical pill or anything. It's something you'll have to work at.
But how? you may ask. This is one of those situations where it really is easier than that done:
To see why you are reacting to people in a certain way, you have to search deep inside yourself. That means a lot of introspection, medication and a lot of time thinking about your state of mind. It also means being mindful of oneself.
I recommend you take a look at the book: “The Miracle of Mindfulness: An Introduction to the Practice of Meditation“. It is a great starting point.
Original article: 3 causes for Judging People.